How well do you know yourself?

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I spend a lot of time in a state of self-reflection, checking in with myself and answering some uncomfortable questions about why I feel the way I feel, allowing myself to complete my feelings at any level of intensity instead of disrupting them...because that’s the only way permanent healing takes place. Over the last six months, I’ve let go of pain I’ve held on to for years because, for the first time, I’ve made myself a priority. I am responsible for my happiness. I am responsible for making sure that my needs are met. Do you know what your needs are? How well do you know yourself? Keep reading for some ways to get to know yourself a little better.


1. Stop disrupting your emotions​
You are not crazy, what you’re feeling is not stupid. You feel that way for a reason. Don’t just sit with that emotion and let it turn into something worse. At the appropriate time and place, unpack it. Question it. Ask yourself why you’re feeling that way. What event caused that feeling? What about it made you react in this specific way? Has this happened before? Did it trigger fear or worry? What are you scared of or worried about? Why? Just continuously ask yourself questions. Along the way, you’ll learn a lot about yourself. We can’t possibly expect someone else to understand us if we can’t even understand ourselves.

2. Do things that make you happy!
Spend time with people and do things that make you feel like the best version of yourself. Spend time with people who encourage you, listen to you, and believe in you. Where is your happy place? Who are your favorite people to be around? Remember that it’s always okay to say no! Just because someone asks you to hang out or just because you got offered a job does NOT mean you have to say yes. Go with your gut and do things when you’re ready. Ask yourself if it feels right.

3. Be honest with yourself
I promise you can handle it! I find myself attempting to minimize the issue when I’m getting close to realizing a flaw within myself or when I’ve made a mistake. Don’t do that. It’s okay! We all have flaws and we all make mistakes. Be honest with yourself about what led to that and how you can keep it from happening in the future.

4. Plan!
​Plan how you’re going to make better decisions in the future. Plan how you’d like to handle certain situations next time. Imagine what you could do differently. If you have an idea of how you’d like to respond to certain situations if they come up again, you’ll be a little more prepared and potentially have a more positive outcome.

Thanks for reading!
- Janay


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